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YOUNG PERSONS SERVICES
WHAT IS CONSENT?
Consent is when someone agrees, gives permission, or says “yes” to sexual activity with other persons. Consent is always freely given and all people in a sexual situation must feel that they are able to say “yes” or “no” or stop the sexual activity at any point.
Consent is never assumed
When consent can be given:
- If you are free to make a choice if there isn’t anything bad that would happen to you if you said no – for example if they were being threatened with violence ( by for example a friend or boyfriend).
- Freedom is also affected if there is a power imbalance between two people, because of age, status or some kind of dependency (i.e. drug use, financial control).
- Having the freedom to consent means doing something because you WANT to, not because something or someone is pressuring you one way or the other.
- Capacity is about whether you are physically and/or mentally able to make a choice and to understand the consequences of that choice.
- It’s the same as the law that says you may be physically able to drive a car when you are drunk but you are not mentally able, if you are drunk or high, you don’t have true capacity to agree to sex.
- Capacity is also affected if you have some kinds of learning difficulties or by age… basically, anything that means you aren’t fully aware of what saying yes or no means.
- Consent is not ongoing and needs to be negotiated not only every time you have sex (regardless of with same person or different) but even during sex as you start to do different things.
- Consent is contextual which means that if you agree to sex with particular stipulations (i.e. a condom), your consent is tied to this.
- If someone has sex with you outside of the particular context you specified, then this is not consensual.
Watch this video explaining consent:
WHAT IS CHILDHOOD SEXUAL EXPLOITATION?
Child sexual exploitation (CSE) is a type of sexual abuse. This is when you may have been tricked or put in exploitative situations and relationships receive something such as gifts, money or affection as a result of performing sexual activities or others performing sexual activities on them.
Children or young people may be tricked into believing they’re in a loving, consensual relationship. They might be invited to parties and given drugs and alcohol. They may also be groomed and exploited online.
Some children and young people are trafficked into or within the UK for the purpose of sexual exploitation. Sexual exploitation can also happen to young people in gangs.
WHAT IS GROOMING?
Grooming is when someone builds an emotional connection with a child to gain their trust for the purposes of sexual abuse, sexual exploitation or trafficking.
Children and young people can be groomed online or face-to-face, by a stranger or by someone they know – for example, a family member, friend or professional.
Groomers may be male or female. They could be any age.
Many children and young people don’t understand that they have been groomed or that what has happened is abuse.
Watch this video: Losing Control: A Story About Sexual Exploitation
WHAT IS SEXTING?
Sexting can happen for lots of reasons. You might: feel like ‘everyone else is doing it’ even if they’re not – especially if they’re exaggerating about sending photos or boasting about having them on their phone worry about being seen as ‘not sexy’, ‘frigid’ or ‘shy’ and go along with things you’re uncomfortable with.
You might feel under pressure to sext as a way of ‘proving’ your sexuality, feel harassed, threatened or blackmailed into sending pictures, or to feel it’s easier just to ‘give in’ to somebody who keeps asking for things. You might feel like you want someone’s approval.
You girlfriend or boyfriend might think you ‘owe’ them something or made to feel guilty if you don’t do what they ask you for.
You might be in love with the person and trust them completely.
You have a long distance or online relationship with someone and want to have a sexual relationship with them.
If you want to find out more watch Taylor’s Story:
CHILDRENS & YOUNG PERSONS ADVOCACY
At SOS Rape we have Children’s Independent Sexual Violence Advocates, you may hear people refer to these workers as CHISVA’s which is the short version for their proper name.
A CHISVA’s role is:
- To deliver advocacy and support service to you if you are aged 17 years and under.
- To help you access appropriate therapeutic interventions and to develop your own support network through internal or external referral processes.
- To provide emotional and practical support through the criminal justice system and beyond as necessary.
- To empower you to be able to share their thoughts and feelings with your carers and professionals working with them.
- To risk assess and help you keep safe, including preparing personal safety plans in conjunction with professionals working you.
- To consider and respond to safeguarding issues raised about you or someone you might know and support you with liaising with other agencies accordingly.
- To support you to access your rights.
- To support you to access health services.
- To attend relevant multi-agency meetings/panels where appropriate to support meeting your needs and ensuring YOUR voice is heard.
- To provide information about the impact of sexual violence to you, your carers and other agencies to enable you to understand and better respond to trauma behaviours.